Enjoying Sex,Jed Smith,Way too Cool and Tappering

"Man's mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its original dimensions."
– Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr

On January 25^th, Tony, Chris and I ran the first part of a Way too Cool training run at the Olmsted in Cool. The distance was roughly 8 miles, and we covered that distance quickly. I am pleased about how I am running and I know Tony is pleased about his running as well.

  On January 26, we started celebrating Randall’s 59^th birthday with a trail run. The plan was to run from Cronin ranch to the Salmon Falls Bridge about 8 1/2 miles. Randall, Madhu, Farah, Chris, Tony and I started our run there. Since Tony and I are tapering for our 50 K ( Jed Smith  for me) (Orcas Island 50K for Tony), we didn’t push, to the limit, during that run. Diane met us at the Salmon Falls Bridge after the run.  Madhu, who is not tapering, ran back to the Cronin ranch. His brother asked him to join him in a 100 K Quicksilver run in May. Madhu, said he hasn’t committed as of yet.

This evening, we are having a birthday dinner celebration and will be joined by additional friends.

On another note, an article in the October 22, 2013 edition of the Wall Street Journal identified some reasons for having sex. The University of Toronto researchers identified the following: 1. Self-Focused Approach (to pursue a positive outcome for yourself, such as personal pleasure, or to feel closer to your partner) 2. Self-Focused Avoidance (to evade a negative outcome for yourself, for example, wanting to not feel guilty about saying “no” to sex) 3. Partner-Focused Approach (to achieve a positive outcome with your partner, like greater closeness or to make the partner feel good) 4. Partner-Focused Avoidance (to avoid conflict with your partner and prevent him or her from feeling angry or disappointed)

108 heterosexual dating couples completed a survey, and the results were as follows. On  days when a  person’s motivation to have sex is more positively oriented, he or she felt more satisfied-both in  the relationship and sexually-and had a higher level of desire. Conversely, on days when someone was motivated to have sex by more negative goals, he or she felt less satisfied and less desire.

Further, a person’s sexual motivation affected his or her partner’s gratification. When someone had sex for positive reasons, the partner felt more desire and relationship satisfaction. When someone had sex or negative reasons, the partner felt less satisfied in the relationship and less sexually satisfied.

Consider, checking out with your partner, motivation for having sex employing the 4 typical motivations listed above. And, in doing so, evaluate how that relates to the findings of the sex survey also listed above. Hopefully, you are on track for more and better sex. If so, you’re likely to be happier.

In addition, keep moving, laughing, smiling, deep breathing, bonding, loving and employing appreciation.