Homo sapiens, begin life helpless and totally
dependent on other humans for survival. This is accompanied by physiological
instincts, being subjected to external dangers like nature or enemies,
associating with other humans, cultural traditions, and as a result we
experience fears, tensions, anxiety and anger. We are subjected to various
degrees of quantity or quality of such common to all, regardless of how they
are or were originated. Then, through psychological development, we develop strategies,
tendencies and techniques in confronting what it is to be human and how to
effectively live in society. With conflict, we experience degrees of tension,
anxiety and anger which may be repressed or expressed physically or verbally. The
dynamics of such are related in the how
and why we interact with certain individuals in a particular manner in order to
meet psychological needs of receiving affection; becoming emotionally distant ; or acquiring
and exploiting others for power, control, prestige and possession .
Behavioral examples of such follow.
As social
animals, we are dependent and form necessary associations with other Homo
sapiens. We develop degrees of trust versus degrees of mistrust of others in upbringing
as a result of physical interactions of perceived warmth, love, respect,
overprotectiveness, neglect, rejection, threats of punishment, dependence, etc.
A sense of trust or mistrust affects the perceived amount of safety, protection
or anxiety we psychologically experience. Unfortunately, with or in spite of
interpersonal interactions, we often find some form of inhibitions or fear in expressing
needs, conflicts, competition, jealousy, disappointments, frustration and
anger. Regardless, we often seek out, to love and affiliate with others; we often
avoid, push away others in order to keep our emotional distance; or often move
aggressively against others by exploiting and exhibiting power and control. Of
course there are various degrees, patterns and variances within these behaviors.
This, along with the potential to over inflate an unrealistic conception or
perception of self is the human attempt to reduce, cope and deal with internal
and external danger, insecurity, fear and anxiety that exists throughout one’s
lifetime.
Driven by
anxiety results in an attempt for protection against that fear, helplessness or
insecurity. One way to “protect “is to develop a tendency to look for
affection, being liked, being loved, finding unconditional love, sexual
gratification, gathering faithful admirers or individuals whom are loyal. Again, there can be harmonious or
not so harmonious degrees and tendencies. Without the sense of feeling of being
liked, can result in feelings of resentment and anger. Putting on frequent
rallies, watching certain cable pundits, listening to particular radio hosts
are commonly employed habits in the attempt to experience protection and a reduction
in the tension and anxiety, in order to attain homeostasis or to regain wellbeing.
Another way
in our culture for obtaining some form of reassurance against anxiety, is a
tendency to seek out power, prestige and possession. In this case, there’s an
obvious move against others in an attempt to fortify one’s own position.
Unfortunately, if the striving for power is born out of anxiety, hatred, and
feeling of inferiority, individuals perceived as being weak is accompanied by
repressed or not repressed hostility toward them. These domineering individuals
that have an exaggerated need for power, have difficulty accepting, listening to
guidance, advice or help or even giving in, and agreeing with others as in “I
know more than the general’s . Likely, this individual has contempt for people
that he perceives as weak and admires the strong as in the dictators in Russia,
North Korea and Turkey. He also has to be able to control others and be in charge
in directing outcomes. He even created a National Emergency .He has to be right
all the time, and his difficulty with the facts, especially given from someone
else, and referring to it as “fake news.” He’s like a little child with a
temper tantrum. He has to have his own way, is impatient, has a low frustration
tolerance, creates havoc and instability
and is irritated if others do not do exactly what he expects them to do .He
never gives in or apologizes because
that’s perceived as a personal weakness .
Along with
this need for power as a protection against helplessness and against
insignificance is a tendency for prestige. There’s a need to impress others, to
be admired, to be respected and to humiliate others. This individual has no
difficulty spending money lavishly and conspicuously and openly talk about how
great he is and his billions. He is not able to have any association unless
they are a “loyal” friend, wife, dedicated employee, etc. They have to admire
him as he surrounds himself with fans, enthusiasts and loyalists. Self-worth
and self-esteem, rests on, being admired. This attempt to inflate ego is really
a protection against feeling insignificant, humiliated for the sake of
repairing his fragile and crushed self-esteem. Furthermore, expressing hostility,
usually takes the form of humiliating others, being a bully, and discriminating
against others, per daily tweets” Andrew McCabe is a traitor” and “The New York
Times is an enemy of the people.”
In our
culture, the striving for possession, as in wealth gives both power and
prestige. However, the quest for possession, is not only directed toward money
or material things, it can also appear as a controlling attitude towards
others. Moreover, there’s a tendency to deprive others, which can lead to
cheating, and stealing. Looking into tax returns and dealings with the Deutsche
Bank is perceived as crossing a red line. Language becomes rationalized in
being able to outwit, outmaneuver and outsmart everyone else. It’s also not
uncommon with this to be a grudging attitude to exploit, declare bankruptcy,
not pay debt, create a fake university, or set up an unscrupulous foundation as
well.
His current
defensive behavior is not unexpected. He continues to be under attack, and even
more so with media, social media, 2020 election, Mueller investigation,
indictments and jail sentences for his team and now with the Democrats in
charge of the House. Currently, there’s no safety net or barrier to protect
this psychologically vulnerable, stressed individual. As a result, we can
expect the continued conflict, anxiety and anger to be expressed physically and
verbally inappropriately in attempting to meet his needs of affection, power,
prestige and possession.
PS
For
additional information, consult Karen Horney’s “The Neurotic Personality of Our
Time” published by WW Norton and Company, Inc.