The article “Lovers
in Auschwitz, Reunited” published by the New York Times on December 8, 2019 was
heartfelt as it pertained to World War 11. This essay depicts the chutzpah of
Helen and David both Auschwitz survivors.
Back in,
1942 in Auschwitz, David Wisnia, age 17 and Helen Spitzer age 25 first met.
Both were prisoners but held” favorable” positions in this death camp. David’s
father was opera loving which influenced David’s singing talent. Even though he
was forced to collect the bodies of prisoners that had committed suicide by clinging
to electrified fences, David was chosen to sing for his captors. Helen became ill
when assigned to grueling demolition work. When it was discovered that she was
a graphic artist, Helen was assigned to office work. She was then able to “move
freely” in and around the camp.
Helen spotted
David. They became friends and lovers over the next few months. In fact, both
secretly met in an area surrounded by the piled high street clothes of
prisoners. Helen hired fellow prisoners to stand guard and watch for
approaching SS officers. When they learned they would be soon be moved and
separated because of approaching allies, they made a plan to meet, after the
war, at a community center in Warsaw.
It’s clear
that these two individuals met in deplorable conditions in an ugly time in
world history. However, their needs for
Affiliation-to please and win affection; Nurturance-to help, support,
console, protect, and comfort; Sex- have sexual intercourse; and Succorance-to
be loved, supported, sustained,
protected, guided were met by their union. What also helped them survive was
their ability to plan for a future.
Viktor
Frankel, in his concentration camp experience, wrote about the life saving power
of looking to the future. Having a future meant that one had significant,
meaningful need related goals. These goals were difficult to attain and had
barriers and obstacles that had to be overcome. The completion of goal
achievement resulted in only positives and satisfaction.
While on
separate death marches, both managed escapes. Fortunately, for David, he was
rescued by the United States 101 Airborne. He was adopted by this unit and was
instrumental in translation and interrogation while caring a machine gun
dressed in an army uniform. Travelling through Austria, he and his unit made it
to Hitler’s mountain retreat in Berchtesgaden. Helen, after escaping, made her
way to Bratislava, Slovakia. From there she was involved in smuggling Jews
across borders, helping refugees in the underground movement while moving
across Eastern Europe and Palestine.
Helen traveled
to Warsaw waiting for David. He never showed. She married in 1945 and was
involved in distributing food among refugees; going on missions through the
United Nations, and going to Peru, Bolivia and Indonesia. She also became a
subject for various historians in detailing the horrors of Auschwitz and moved
to New York. David, arrived in Hoboken in 1946. He married, became Vice
President of Sales for the Wonderland of Knowledge Corporation and had four
children and six grandchildren.
Finally,
they met 72 years later. Helen, lost her husband in 1996; became bedbound and
was becoming blind and deaf. Their reunion lasted about two hours. She told
David that she saved him five times from being shipped. David sang to her the
song that she taught him in Auschwitz. They never met again and she died last
year at the age of 100.
The story of
Helen and David demonstrated the power and significance of psychological needs,
their emotional component and behavior. This power or drive transcended
objectivity, rational thought and influenced behavioral choices. Both of these
humans were taken from their homes and placed in inhumane conditions. Their
dignity was stripped while they were guarded and abused by humans with rifles
and dogs. They witnessed death, disease, starvation, suicide, cruelty and
irrationality along with disrespectful religious prejudiced behavior. In spite
of their horrific environmental conditions, they risked further abuse and most
probably death. Viewing their behavior objectively and rationally, one concludes
that their behavior was dangerous and reckless to say the least. Simply put,
the strength and dominance of their needs accompanied by emotions dominated
their thinking, fantasies, verbal and physical behavior regardless of their
environmental circumstances. Let me repeat, a fixation of a psychological need
supersedes and becomes dominant irrespective of reality.
Helen
especially, demonstrated in Auschwitz and later on, the following attributes
based on her character. 1. She accomplished what some might say the impossible
by overcoming the barriers related to other human beings 2. She remained loyal
to David and other humans by her charitable work 3. She was able to effectively
act on impulse 4. She mastered and overcame many obstacles and difficulties 5.
She was able to gain control over her environment 6. She made an impression and
was able to excite others 7. She was able to give sympathy and gratify the
needs of others as well as to the help, support, and console, protect and
comfort as well 8. She was able to separate self from an amoral environment 9.
She was able to continue to have a sexual life 10. She was able to gain a
deeper understanding of the Holocaust by her involvement with historians.
Their story
points to the profound and significant importance in connecting with another
during times of man’s inhumanity to man. Obviously, not all significant unions occurred
in times of war. Their story demonstrated the power and importance of a human
connection. Many memories and fantasies are retained and played over and over
in one’s psyche. The strength and significance of the connection held firm
regardless of no ongoing interaction.
Both David
and Helen, despite emotional scars of the concentration camp, survived and
lived productive lives. Through the catharsis of telling her story to the
historians, allowed her to demonstrate an understanding, nurturance, succorance
in giving to others. David, became a Cantor at a Temple and had a son who
became a rabbi. David was able to express aggression by his association with
101 Airborne and achieved success. His English became perfect as he identified with
his American way of life.
PS
Freddy
Mayer, after fleeing Germany as a teenager, enlisted in the U.S. Army and went
back to fight the Nazis. He parachuted into Nazi occupied Austria, impersonated
a Wehrmacht officer, and helped Allied bombers target Nazis supply trains. He
also facilitated the sabotage of a secret Messerschmitt airplane factory and
was captured and tortured by the Gestapo. As their prisoner, he was beaten
bloody and had a punctured eardrum and missing teeth. He convinced his captors
that rather than killing him they should surrender to him. They did and that
allowed the advancing American army to capture the entire Austrian Tyrol
without firing a shot. More about Freddy can be found in “Return to the Reich-a
Holocaust Refugees Secret Mission to Defeat the Nazis.”