Am I just collecting or
am I hoarding? Do you know anyone that collects animals, i.e. cats; clothing,
books, magazines, newspapers or some other mixture of items? Do you know anyone
who engages in excessive buying that often creates a financial strain? Do you
know anyone that has difficulty discarding their possessions? Do you know
anyone that creates clutter in their living room, in their bedroom, in their
garages, making it difficult to find a place to sit down? When shopping the
hoarder likes to touch and handle things and has difficulty walking away and
controlling that urge to possess and buy. Perhaps this individual is aging and
also seems to invite you less and less into their home. In any event, there are
other characteristics of hoarding.
According to Erich Fromm, the hoarding character is orderly and
stingy with things, thoughts and feelings. The person has difficulty dealing
with things that seem to be out of place. And only he can put them in order,
which means the person controls the space. Irrational punctuality and/or
compulsive cleanliness are other behaviors that allow the person to control
time and things. This orderly individual is generally not overly clean, but
could be actually dirty. And this person, often prevents anything from leaving
the living space by saving. For the individual that saves, it is like
fortifying his home, garage [Fortress]. And of course, that person is also
stubborn and often obstinate.
This character trait allows the individual to employ
possession as a means of security, or feeling safe in a dangerous world. If you
possess it, you control it. Then it’s yours and yours alone. In essence we are
talking about employing possession to control an irrational or dangerous world.
So if you know a collector or hoarder, you might consider
suggesting professional help. And that task often presents a problem for the
helper.
One might ask, what does this have to do with health and
well-being? More than likely this
psychological character trait can get in the way of productivity and
relationships which interferes with maximizing growth. In other words, this
trait get in the way and limit one’s life. If your orientation is for hoarding ,
it’s the antithesis of health.
Moving, laughing, smiling, loving, bonding and appreciating
is a healthier way to orient yourself to the world.
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