– Raymond Charles Barker
In his 13 chapter book, Rusty, after each chapter, raises questions for the reader. This allows the reader to take an active approach in more fully understanding each chapter. Chapter 3 is titled What Does It Mean to Be Well? He draws four conclusions as to why individuals choose or stay with the easier or more comfortable behavior pattern: 1. Our identity becomes so wrapped up in our illness that we wouldn’t know who we were if we made a change for the better. 2. Some get comfortable with their illness, and it’s easier to stay where they are because otherwise they would have to become responsible and accountable for normal day- to- day living. 3. We lack the confidence needed to change. 4. We established the “societal norm” routine. The reader can either agree or disagree with Rusty’s ideas. But, in doing so, you have to think. Thinking is one of the beauties of this book.
Rusty talks about his four conclusions by illustrating examples from his clients. At the end of Chapter 13, he raises three more questions: 1. What does wellness mean to you? 2. What changes are you willing to make in order to meet that definition? 3. On a scale of 1 to 10, what is your level of confidence that you can make the changes you need to make to be well? Remember, it all takes place between your ears.
Consider taking advantage of Rusty’s knowledge and experience (since 1991), If you’re at all concerned with your health and/or have reached a plateau and are stuck. We all realize that change is difficult, as well as being compulsive (stick- to- it- ness). Remember, no one ever said it’s easy to be consistent without employing rationalizations, denial or other defense mechanisms.
In any event, keep moving, smiling, laughing, loving, appreciating and bonding in your life space.