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It Has Nothing To Do With Age provides self-help principles. The inspirational stories give concrete illustrations of overcoming many of life's challenges. Difficulties pertaining to depression, grief, divorce, and death are presented and worked through by the participants. Physical impairments, injuries, overcoming issues with weight, alcohol, and nicotine are also dealt with and resolved by the athletes.

This book provides a model on how to overcome some of the difficulties that confront all of us . Further, this read sheds a beacon of light on preventive measures for good physical and mental health. Research demonstrates that exercise is an important component in treating such ailments and debilitating illness such as depression, stroke, heart disease, brain or cognitive malfunction,and Alzheimer's disease.

I suggest that proper exercise can be used as a preventive measure for psychological, cognitive, and physical health as well. Follow my prescription and lead a better, more fulfilling, and healthier life.

Sunday, February 17, 2019

Satisfaction Part 3


In order to pursue knowledge, rationality, and self-reflection, I attended Wayne State University and attained a PhD. As an assistant professor, I taught and lectured numerous classes in psychology. I later entered private practice, consulted with the criminal justice system, conducted research, presented research findings to national associations and attended the San Francisco Psychoanalytic Institute. Much later, I wrote a book “It Has Nothing to Do With Age” that pertained to the motivation of older individuals who participated in extreme sports.
Sorry Mick Jagger, your wins and losses, according to Aristotle and the ancient Greeks do not add up or equal their definition of happiness. Pursuing power, possession and prestige do not result in happiness, but instead are associated with neurosis. I like my wins and losses per Aristotle and the ancient Greeks in that they have provided me with a tremendous amount of life satisfaction. I continue to live up to my potential.
PS
On Tuesday, February 12, I decided to run from Auburn to Cool on the Western States-Tevis trail leaving from Robie Point. Within 10 or 15 minutes, I saw a woman coming up the trail. She said “Frank.” I replied, “Yes.” She said “I’m April, Linda’s daughter.” I said, “I recognized your voice.” As it happened, I first met Linda Rapposelli-Rogers at the Quicksilver Ride and Tie in San Jose. A few years later, I met up with her on the Western States trail, in September of 2001. She remarked, “Let’s run Western States.” As it turned out, she became a good friend, my running partner as we both qualified by running our first 50 mile run in October of 2001. In November, we were selected to run in the 2002 race in which we both were buckle winners. After that Western States 2002, 100 mile run, my sister, Beverly said to me “if I were in a foxhole, I’d want to be with Linda.”
Good luck with your pregnancy April. I’m sorry to hear about Bud Johns passing. Thank you Bud for creating the sport of Ride and Tie.

Saturday, February 16, 2019

Satisfaction Part 2


Other sports that I became involved in were endurance riding, ride and tie and ultra-running. As a result of my participation in ride and tie events, I met and became friends with world-class equine specialists, and world-class runners. As far as ride and tie competitions, my horse and I won yearly mile championships and other awards. Further, with my partner Jonathan Jordan and my Arabian horse Gypsy, we won the prestigious and grueling 100 mile Swanton Pacific event in 2008.
I also participated in many endurance rides with my various equines, and met and developed solid friendships as well. In 2000, with my horse Raider, we completed the oldest or father of endurance racing, called the 100 mile Tevis Cup.
I began ultra running in 1997, by running a 50 K. Then, in 2002, I completed the prestigious and well-known 100 mile Western States endurance run. I developed mature lasting relationships while training, and with my race pacers. In that race, I was an age division winner as well. Originally, there were four of us, that had completed these extreme one day 100 mile events but now just three of us remain as Warren Hellman passed. Warren and I rode the last 50 miles or so of the Tevis Cup in 2000. I competed in ultra running and on February 2, 2019 I was an age division winner in the Jed Smith 50 K.  Tony Brickel was again my pacer.
To Be Continued

Friday, February 15, 2019

Satisfaction


After reading the article titled “Self-Help, Ancient Greek Style” in the January 27, 2019 edition of The New York Times, I thought of The Rolling Stones’ “I Can’t Get No Satisfaction.” Poor Mick Jagger as he tried and tried, but was unable to get satisfaction. Perhaps, if he psychologically “did” instead of “try”, he might’ve been more successful.
According to this article, the Greeks, including Aristotle had a unique philosophy regarding the living of life. One could pursue happiness, well-being, prosperity [finding purpose to become the best version of yourself, nothing to do with the obsession of material success] or the Greek word eudaimonia by living one’s life a certain way.  One could employ reason; knowledge; rationality; virtue; self-reflection; togetherness or mature relationships; and employ midway or well-balanced behavior between extremes. Put another way, one could demonstrate strength of will, purposeful striving as an end to itself in order to live up to one’s fullest potential or become self-actualized. For me, instead of searching for happiness or looking for the fountain of youth, I labeled it, “the fulfillment of wishes, expectations, needs, and the pleasure derived from it or satisfaction.”
Using Aristotle’s model as a guide or reference for living, the following is my reflection. From childhood to present, I have always participated in sports. Specifically, my high school was known as a football powerhouse on the east side of Detroit. In fact, our senior team was called, by the sports writers, one of the best ever to play in the state of Michigan. I attained honors, while playing in the sport that I love, my skill level was rewarded, and I received an athletic football scholarship to attend the University. My interest in football continued, and was exhibited and furthered by my book “Bo’s Warriors Bo Schembechler and the Transformation of Michigan Football. Linda and I return to Ann Arbor every year to attend a University of Michigan game with former players.
 To Be Continued

Sunday, February 10, 2019

The Authoritarian Character Part 3


Within this dynamic, blind admiration, respect, unity and attachment follows. That emotional symbiosis figure becomes the greatest, the best, and the most wonderful in the galaxy. However, that can easily be diminished by some form of discontent or hatred, if one perceives that the all-powerful figure was being weak or displaying some form of weakness. This is because lack of power is a sign of weakness or inferiority. It’s also not uncommon for these individuals to show some form of rebelliousness by defying authority in an attempt to unconsciously overcome their own feelings of powerlessness.
On the dominance, or sadistic side of the equation, there’s a tendency to control, dominate and to manipulate the other. This can be expressed by “I know what’s best for you,” “it’s my job to, protect you,” “I’m punishing you because I love you,” “I will take care of you,” “I will do everything in my power to help you,” “it’s God’s will” etc. This form of verbal behavior is typically exhibited, but not limited to the physical abuser after abusing the other. These are simple, rationalizations with a manipulative intent to undo the harm and keep the symbiosis in place. The abuser always require a victim. Although sadomasochism behaviors are common, there are varying and harsher or extreme degrees of such.
 In essence, a clear sign of this type of personality is to admire authority {masochism} and have others submit {sadism} to him. In essence, happiness lies in the submission to these forces. Adorno and others have called this the authoritarian personality and have developed evaluation measures as well. Add economic inequality, debt, low or minimal skill level, ineffective, or out of date educational background, physical impairment, illness or addiction with a doom and gloom outlook and low self-esteem to the authoritarian character dynamics, and the result is a strong and dominant unconscious motivational longing or drive for a magic savior, magic helper, magic fixer, or godlike powerful figure to the rescue. The person is attracted to a” powerful” like Pied Piper dynamic  and as a consequence will follow that figure anywhere, anyplace regardless; providing that person does not exhibit any form what so ever or signs of weakness, impotence, inadequacy, or feebleness. Forget about rationality as irrationality becomes supreme.

Saturday, February 9, 2019

The Authoritarian Character Part 2


In order to provide a more explicit description of the authoritarian character type, let’s look at one significant variable.  Homo sapiens arrive into this world anxious, dependent, insecure and powerless .Then through socialization, personality develops. Within the authoritarian character, there is a tendency and a craving for submission {masochism} along with a lust for power or domination {sadism}.  With masochism and sadism strivings, we find feelings of inferiority, powerlessness, inadequacy, weakness and social insignificance. Although one may be aware of this anxiety or unpleasantness, there’s an unconscious component that drives or influences the person to feel inferior and insignificant as evidenced by behavior, fantasies, dreams, gestures, etc.
As a consequence of these emotional dynamics, results in a tendency to fuse oneself {masochism} with somebody or something outside of self. Psychologically, this takes place unconsciously In order to acquire or compensate for the separateness, weakness and omnipotence that one lacks, thereby gaining some sense of security, power, strength, and connectedness. That identification or becoming part of, could be with a significant person, celebrity, God, coach, political figure, lover, institution, team, philosophy, political party, religion, etc. In fact, that personification might become a “magic helper,” or a “magic lover” that results in psychological dependence or dependency.
Just think of attending a national political convention.  Masses of people are dressed with similar hats, etc.; hold similar signs; yell and scream in unison; and become a mob. In that setting, one is no longer alone, feels part of something, is comforted in something much larger than self, and would follow that crowd, mob or sentiment, no matter what or where. On a smaller scale, sitting in a room with anxious fellow teammates listening to the coach preparing his warriors or soldiers for battle, regardless of the personal cost or potential harm to one’s body, raises the adrenalin levels for fight. On a personal note, I would’ve run through the wall if Coach Ed Rutherford asked. When he said, hit the quarterback on every play, I did without any questioning.
To Be Continued

Friday, February 8, 2019

The Authoritarian Character


The article “The Power of the Middle-Class Shame Vote” in the January 6, 2019, of The New York Times suggested that both poor and middle class voters had much in common. Examples included that the myth of attaining a college degree was just a myth, and did not guarantee employment in today’s economic market. Moreover, achieving that college degree meant that one had accumulated a massive repayment debt. Further, being college educated did not guarantee that one did not lose their job; be subjected to irregular work; or have a union negotiated contract. Certainly, the less than college educated are in a worse or dire situation as they likely do not have the necessary  skills for today’s employment. Another anxiety or stress factor, for this group, was related to physical illness, drug and/or alcohol addiction of self or some family member. Even with health insurance, one can be faced with debt, bankruptcy depending upon the illness and/or pre-existing health coverage. In essence, the quality of economics and health within one’s life space, at any time, results in an inordinate amount of insecurity, anxiety, worry, bitterness and anger, not only in the present, but also the loss of hope and disillusionment about their future. These failures, and they are personal failures in our capitalistic system, are detrimental to one’s sense of self, self-esteem and social prestige. The comparisons, with others, exacerbates the feelings of unworthiness, inadequacy, and inferiority. This adds to the unconscious longing or tendency to identify, to become dependent and become more receptive on a savior or rescuer. Furthermore, these components or dynamics dovetail within the authoritarian character structure?
Employing economics and illness as a backdrop, lead to a second article found in The New York Times, dated December 16, 2018 titled “Is There Such a Thing As an Authoritarian Voter?” In this article, there was reference to Theodor Adorno’s research “The Authoritarian Personality, published in 1950. It was focused on and with fascist and anti-Semitic racism present in Germany and Italy during the Second World War .Another major focus of the article pertained to the conservative and/or Trump follower of the past presidential election.
To Be Continued

Friday, February 1, 2019

Aging


About four years ago, a New York Times writer began following six people who were at least 85 years of age or older. This year’s follow-up titled “Pioneers Inch Ahead into the Twilight,” was found in the January 6, 2019 edition of The New York Times. I remembered reading that first article about those six individuals. They were doing fairly well without many health issues at that time. This article was different as two of the six passed away, leaving just four.  All four were in their 90s and one was faced with the onset of dementia and the other three with physical illnesses.
One of the themes included memory issues, which was not surprising. Also noticeable was a significant decrease in physical activities. Medical complications were not kind as well. One woman stated that she had to present a theme about surviving and in no way could talk about not surviving with her family. She added that her son would say “oh ma, you’re going to keep going forever.” She translated this by stating “the thought of my passing is very upsetting to him.” In other words, her son’s issue with guilt meant that she now has to live for her son’s mental health.
One man was born in Lithuania during World War II; and during Nazi occupation, apparently wrote in the paper anti-sematic calls for violence, per a recent article in the New York Review of Books. The Lithuanian denounced the article and added, “After 75 years, that period remained unreal to me because it was such an unnatural intrusion that I cannot identify myself. It’s like it does not belong period.” This man was confronted with that unflattering article, as well as a hemoglobin deficiency and polyps in his digestive tract.
A more uplifting article titled “Australia’s Fastest 92-year-old Woman,” was also published in that same newspaper. Heather Lee holds five world records and eight Australian ones for her race walking. She attributed part of her success in that she started at the youthful age of 85. Heather was quoted “age is no barrier to anything, really.” This remarkable young lady spoke about her life’s purpose, which was to convey to younger people about the importance of living right. This meant a healthy diet and plenty of exercise. In fact, one of her mottos “take the stairs, not the lift, always.” Another positive component, in aging, is looking to the future and having a goal. According to Heather,” this year’s a big one, because-is it going to be better than last year? 2018, was an amazing year for me.”
In conclusion, I agree with Heather-healthy diet, plenty of exercise and looking forward to the future. Not having a physical or mental diagnosis helps greatly as well. Also, it’s demonstrated that the past can have negative effects on the present.
 Heather, I’m running the Jed Smith 50 K on Saturday. My friend Tony is accompanying me. Also entered, but in a different age group, in the race is Mark Richtman. I met Mark about 20 years ago at a Ride and Tie event and found out then as well as now that he is still a world class runner. He’s the favorite in Saturday’s race and I wish him well.

Saturday, January 26, 2019

Racism, Part 2


On Broadway, Harper Lee’s “To Kill a Mockingbird” with Jeff Daniels was the recipient of super reviews. Although Harper Lee passed away 3 years ago, her estate originally wanted to ban the play because “it didn’t capture the spirit” of this 1960 novel. On another note, in the novel, as well as the play, the word “Nigger” is used. Some might find this offensive. However, that word represented racial discrimination, then and now. We find that racial discrimination is still present, even though the word “Nigger” is not as prevalent.
  Racism and prejudice, not surprisingly, still exist, and in many ways is more subtle in many geographical areas. Can you believe that the color of one’s skin; racial heritage, political views; and/ or religious beliefs result in so much hateful prejudice? It’s true that these perceived cognitive distortions or irrationalities [employing a partial fact, adding an untruth, creating a scapegoat, and drawing a false conclusion], differences or prejudices are accompanied by insecurities, the vulnerabilities and unpleasantness of anxiety, danger or fear that result in hostility and sadism, which are an integral part of our design. Often, hostility, passive aggressive physical and verbal anger are associated with negative emotions. In essence, we exhibit a plethora irrationality.
 It’s certainly not rational to express sadistic, hateful rhetoric or physical behavior to another Homo sapiens just because of a different skin color; or a different or differing viewpoint or belief.  This is not new as religion, originated rules or laws attempting to regulate sadistic treatment to others. That idea has failed miserably. Unfortunately, anxiety is often associated with such behavior, and with it, it simply dictates or drives the motivation of Homo sapiens. Moreover, rationality, truth and reason takes a second step behind, anxiety, sadomasochism, vulnerable  need structures,  goal attainment compensation, managing physical and economic ills and chasing illusions within an insane society with its many barriers and hurdles along the way. Sorry, Socrates, Homo sapiens have too much on their plate, are irrational, and are unable to deal consistently with the terrific ideals of knowledge, truth, and virtue. Simply put, irrationality and bigotry are inbred cousins.

Friday, January 25, 2019

Racism


I just finished reading a  brief article posted in the New York Times on 12 /30/2018 regarding Devah Pager, who received her PhD in sociology from UCLA. Dr. Pager was reared in the normal multiculturalism of Hawaii and first encountered a racial divide moving to LA for her studies. Her life experiences influenced her research.
Dr. Pager’s dissertation was not only noteworthy as it received political attention as well. In her research, she had different individuals or confederates apply for hundreds of real jobs. These confederates, all presented similar self-presentations and credentials-but some were black and some white; some would list felony drug convictions and others not as variables. Her findings were that white jobseekers with a criminal record, were significantly more likely to get a call back from the employer than a black job seeker with a criminal record.
Other research, with firms that discriminated, indicated that formerly incarcerated men were not terrible employees compared to non-incarcerated men.  In another study that evaluated attrition rates in the military, she found that there were no differences between men with or without criminal records. In fact, formerly incarcerated military recruits were more likely to get promoted than the non-incarcerated. Another research finding were that firms that practiced discrimination were more likely to go out of business. Recently, in a 2017 study, Dr. Pager found that hiring discriminations against African-Americans had not improved over the last 25 years. This finding was not a surprise.
To Be Continued

Monday, January 21, 2019

Living in the Western World Part 4


Another important dynamic is our requirement for affiliation, being liked, appreciated, acknowledged, and admired, receiving affection, sex and love. It appears that these pursuits are associated with happiness and if not received the result is anxiety and unhappiness. Don’t forget that within relationships, we have competition, and within competition, we have hostility and aggression along with passive aggressiveness.
We believe that happiness is the fulfillment of our childhood wishes and that money doesn’t make us happy, since it’s not usually among our childhood wishes. Also, to be loved does not always make for happiness and can lead to unhappiness, if not reciprocated. Some believe that we learn how to love only when we are loved.
Statistics on marriage are not terrific, which suggests that perhaps there’s a problem with the idea or notion of love. For instance, it appears that a strong or constant affection for a person diminishes over time, and that results, in part, in the dissolution of the union. Poets, authors, song lyrics, biblical references, movies, etc. have expressions of love that do not always fit the Merriam-Webster definition. Perhaps, the word love is misused, not understood, and simply overused, with the result that it is just a non-relevant word choice.
Perhaps, the word affiliation is a better fit, more realistic and more meaningful for Homo sapiens. Affiliation can mean “cooperation, a reciprocation with an allied other; to please and win affection; and to adhere and remain loyal to a friend.” Maybe more people can tolerate being affiliated with another and that would not result in the trauma of a divorce nor an assault to one’s self-esteem.
As one can see, the dynamics of anxiety, competition, hostility, fear of failure, self-esteem, and affiliation are like a kaleidoscope. It’s difficult to tell when one begins or ends as they are like cake batter. You take the ingredients or dynamics and subject them to the environment and outcomes Homo sapiens.
Adding a few ideas from existentialism seems pertinent. First, there is a brevity of the lifecycle. Second, our values, political ideas and scientific achievements become meaningless when we pass. Third, in order for man’s nature and dynamics to change, man must confront and recognize the illusions of religion, politics and science. Only then, if achieved, can man began to deal with anxiety or dread of living in an irrational world.
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Reik, T. The Need to Be Loved. Bantam Book

Sunday, January 20, 2019

Living in the Western World Part 3


Just think, while in high school and living in the Palo Alto area, about the importance of education and the pressure in being admitted to the most prestigious university.  Each individual has their own aspiration, ranking system within their own milieu. Being first or the top of your class can be a success. However, coming in lower can be a failure with a mighty blow as to self-esteem. In sports, being ranked as a five-star athlete or being ranked as a three star athlete can also be problematic.
 Employing an example of a family or brother, competitive ranking from the NBA, can be made by comparing the younger brother Seth Curry with older brother Stephen Curry. How does this younger brother measure up in basketball aspirations and his degree of self-esteem to MVP, and world champion brother Stephen?  The answer is obvious. Seth can’t compete or dominate as a professional basketball player as his brother. Seth’s frustration, negative hostile feelings and fear of failure are part of his self-esteem. His ideal is based on reaching Stephan’s unbelievable skill and achievement.  That’s an example of a bar being set in the stratosphere and impossible to master or meet. Seth’s attitude of self is very different than his older brother. Likewise, his confidence is also very different. On the other hand Stephan’s high self-esteem and tremendous confidence go hand-in-hand. Further, he’s handled his fear of failure remarkably well. Likewise, this 30-year-old superstar is likable, as well as humble.
Rankings, polls, discussions about dynasties are frequent in the many radio and TV programs related to sports. Who was the greatest coach, quarterback, basketball player, team etc. gets replayed over and over. Further, the tendency to diminish or minimize loss or failure to self-esteem is great because of the unpleasantness of anxiety, along with all the negatives which are detrimental self-appraisals. In essence, one’s reference group can have an unbelievable high bar. A high bar can affect one’s level of aspiration and the probability of success. Success and performance breeds success, while poor performance or failure breeds despair, unworthiness and feelings of being inferior. As life is filled with experiences, and experience affects one’s perception of oneself, we carry our self-esteem to the grave.
To Be Continued

Saturday, January 19, 2019

Living in the Western World Part 2


Since my birthday, I have been thinking about a few dynamics pertaining to Homo sapiens In our Western culture. This brief post is an overview of those dynamics. For instance, generally speaking, life as an embryo can be or not be idyllic- i.e. drug use, alcohol use, tobacco use and congenital complications. However, regardless of race, socioeconomics, when the umbilical cord, at birth is cut, things dramatically change and that has been referred to as the trauma of birth. The helpless and dependent infant experiences a tension or anxiety state and is totally at the mercy for his survival from an individual in the environment. Feeding, warmth, rocking, etc. assist in the physiological drive or anxiety reduction. This helplessness, dependence and insignificance exists for quite some time, along with varying degrees of an accompanying unpleasantness or anxiety state. We start out with the unpleasantness of tension and then its various degrees of reduction and then pleasure. Hopefully, we learn to trust ourselves and to trust others in this initial fluid and changing process.
Competition, competitiveness or mastery follows. Initially, our physiological needs require to be met or reduced. This is followed by competing with others for food, safety, warmth, attention, etc. Others can include siblings, parents, and significant others. In school, there is competition, within the peer group, academics, play, sports, friendships, etc. With competition, results with a tendency for mastery and dominance.
However, mastery, and dominance is also accompanied by hostility and aggression unfortunately directed toward another. Our culture is all about winning, as a second-place finish is considered being the first loser. Winning or being the best is taught extremely early and lasts a lifetime. Take a look at any college coach, and their facial expressions and their body language tell a story of uncomfortableness, anxiety and hostility. Winning is synonymous with success and losing with failure.
To Be Continued

Friday, January 18, 2019

Living in the Western World


Since my birthday, I have been thinking about a few dynamics pertaining to Homo sapiens In our Western culture. This brief post is an overview of those dynamics. For instance, generally speaking, life as an embryo can be or not be idyllic- i.e. drug use, alcohol use, tobacco use and congenital complications. However, regardless of race, socioeconomics, when the umbilical cord, at birth is cut, things dramatically change and that has been referred to as the trauma of birth. The helpless and dependent infant experiences a tension or anxiety state and is totally at the mercy for his survival from an individual in the environment. Feeding, warmth, rocking, etc. assist in the physiological drive or anxiety reduction. This helplessness, dependence and insignificance exists for quite some time, along with varying degrees of an accompanying unpleasantness or anxiety state. We start out with the unpleasantness of tension and then its various degrees of reduction and then pleasure. Hopefully, we learn to trust ourselves and to trust others in this initial fluid and changing process.
Competition, competitiveness or mastery follows. Initially, our physiological needs require to be met or reduced. This is followed by competing with others for food, safety, warmth, attention, etc. Others can include siblings, parents, and significant others. In school, there is competition, within the peer group, academics, play, sports, friendships, etc. With competition, results with a tendency for mastery and dominance.
However, mastery, and dominance is also accompanied by hostility and aggression unfortunately directed toward another. Our culture is all about winning, as a second-place finish is considered being the first loser. Winning or being the best is taught extremely early and lasts a lifetime. Take a look at any college coach, and their facial expressions and their body language tell a story of uncomfortableness, anxiety and hostility. Winning is synonymous with success and losing with failure.
To Be Continued

Saturday, January 12, 2019

Emotional Well-Being Part 2


During a recent interview, this professor remained publicly neutral on his personal views regarding Donald J. Trump. He was reported as saying, “I hope I last long enough to write this one up.” Unfortunately, the professor died at 88 years of age on December 3 at his home in Princeton, New Jersey.
Addendum
Briefly, Emotional Intelligence, [E I] was coined in the 1960s and became more popular in the 1990s. An EI definition “the ability to monitor one’s own and other people’s emotions, to discriminate between different emotions and label them appropriately, and use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior.” Subsequent research found that EI was positively correlated with: “1. Better social relations for children. 2. Better social relations for adults. 3. Highly EI individuals are perceived more positively by others. 4. Better family and intimate relationships. 5. Better academic achievement. 6. Better social relations during work performance and in negotiations. 7. Better psychological well-being. 8. Allows for self-compassion.”
Other researchers have been critical of the term. Arguments against the term: “1. it cannot be recognized as a form of intelligence. 2. Confuses skills with moral qualities. 3. Has little predictive value.” 4. It measures a number of other psychological constructs like personality ,empathy and general intelligence. However, the idea that one can become more conscious, coupled with the ability to label their emotions or feelings is valuable. The idea that being able to understand emotions of others as in empathy is important. The idea that emotions interfere with rational thinking is also relevant, imploring examples related to politics, marriage and religion.
In essence, I found that in my professional and personal experience, most people have great difficulty labeling and mistaking their own emotions buy being unable to distinguish a thought from a feeling. Further, anxiety and anger easily surface and impede, like a barrier with rational thought. Socrates and Plato were cognizant of the importance and power `of “Know thyself” a long time ago. Let’s refer to it as emotional well-being.

Friday, January 11, 2019

Emotional Well-Being


Prof. Fred Greenstein recently passed per the New York Times, December 16, 2018. Dr. Greenstein taught politics at Yale, Wesleyan and Princeton. Notably, he wrote and evaluated many of our presidents beginning with Franklin Delano Roosevelt. When he arrived at Princeton, Nixon was president, and Greenstein stated, how anyone could as politically gifted as president, Richard M Nixon end up “Succumbing to what was plainly a self-inflicted political disaster?”
At one time, Dwight Eisenhower was perceived as a disengaged golf playing president. Prof. Greenstein began thinking about a president’s effectiveness as a leader, rather than by their policies or accomplishments. This professor devised a checklist of six qualities or criterion used to evaluate a president. These criteria included: public communication; organizational capacity; political skills; vision; cognitive style; and emotional intelligence. He believed that emotional intelligence was the most important and can be found in his book “The Presidential Difference: Leadership Style from FDR to Clinton.”
While researching material about Pres. Eisenhower, the professor changed the current view regarding this president. Dr. Greenstein concluded that various memos that Eisenhower had dictated off the top of his head were extremely well reasoned and well written. Not only that, he believed that Eisenhower was a deep and careful thinker and politically skillful somewhat like Machiavellian. He also believed that Eisenhower’s poor communication skills were well calculated and deliberately vague in order to appear more genial. However, behind his comments, Eisenhower was in full control. He was pulling strings and manipulating his subordinates. In other words, he was willing to play the fool to achieve his political ends.
Regarding emotional intelligence, Dr. Greenstein believed that intelligence can be measured by “the president’s ability to manage his emotions and turn them to constructive purposes, rather than being dominated by them and allowing them to diminish his leadership.” Regarding President Clinton’s second term, which centered around impeachment, the professor wrote, that without emotional intelligence “The presidency is a defective instrument of democratic governance.”
To Be Continued

Saturday, January 5, 2019

Decision-Making Part 2


In essence, this physical and muscle activity guideline apparently is not very difficult to achieve. One doesn’t even have to go to the gym and become a gym rat. In fact, one can clean the house, rake leaves, park at a greater distance for shopping, go dancing, go bird watching, tote   groceries, ride a bike, etc. All these choices can add to better health with increased longevity.
The fact that the majority of Americans are either overweight or obese and do not accomplish minimum activity guidelines suggests the following. Let me provide one example of a friend who has a high BMI index and overweight. He recently told me that his health was good because of his low blood pressure. This suggests that his conclusion about his health was incorrect because of his anxiety, rationalization and denial of all the negative health conditions related to being overweight. Or, is this intelligent man simply unaware or ignorant of the association between weight and health?  No, because in another conversation, my friend told me that he needs to reduce sugar and carbohydrate intake. One might ask, how can anyone, with all the information provided, be unaware of the health risks of improper eating and lack of exercise? If one is not unaware of the risks and goes ahead incorporating or leading a poor lifestyle, then perhaps, one has an unconscious death wish, aggression turned inward, need for abasement and has given up. There is definitely an inhibition pertaining to healthy eating behavior. Certainly, if one has ill health and not doing much to change that condition, then I can understand of not wanting to live. Who wants to live with exacerbated health issues during the aging process?
 One study suggested that DNA accounted for less than 10% related to longevity. As a result, maintaining a desire to live while being healthy is determined by choices in the area of foods consumed and physical activity. Therefore, recommendations include incorporating as many positive associations between food and food consumption along with proper physical activity. Consistency is paramount because man is irrational, short term pleasure seeking, provides many excuses for himself like employing cognitive dissonance, and defense mechanisms like denial and rationalization. Man can and does justify any topic or self-behavior under the sun especially regarding eating and exercise.
As I have been advising for years, keep moving.

Friday, January 4, 2019



Statistics regarding longevity, in the United States has not significantly changed for either males or females within the last 10 years. I frequently found articles pertaining to wellness or health in the New York Times and other written materials. For instance, in the November 25, 2018 edition of the New York Times, there was an article titled “The Nose Knows.” In this article, researchers in Stockholm, Sweden evaluated the association between breathing and recall or short-term memory. Previous research indicated that breathing through the nose or belly breathing was pertinent when it came to cognition, yoga and relaxation. In this particular research, the researchers compared nasal breathing to mouth breathing with the ability to recall various smells. Their findings added to the literature on how breathing affected cognition. Briefly, nasal breathing was found to be significantly superior when it came to detecting odors as far as short-term memory. Unfortunately, we can’t, as of yet, conclude that nasal breathing is superior to long-term memory regarding odors. However, we can conclude that there are many benefits when it comes to breathing through the nose like relaxation and cognition.
A second article, “When It Comes to Exercise, Every Movement Counts” was found in the December 10, 2018 edition of Time. This article, pointed out the relationship of movement to exercise. According to the new federal guidelines, it urged adults to perform 75 minutes of vigorous or 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity each week plus muscle strengthening activities. Apparently, only about one fourth of Americans accomplish this. Further, one fourth of Americans sit for more than eight hours a day. A Study in the Journal of American Geriatrics Society found that each 30 minute chunk of light activities was linked to a 20% lower risk of dying early compared to more sedentary peers. Another study found that each additional half-hour of light physical activity, such as walking or gardening lowered the risk of early death by 17%.
To Be Continued
PS
I suffered an overuse injury to my calf in mid-December. I visited the Monster of Massage and with rest entered the 10 mile trail Resolution Run on New Year’s with Tony. I completed that run, and felt terrific. I’m now ready for the Jed Smith 50 K in February.

Monday, December 31, 2018

Bo's Competitiveness Part 4



Bo, if he was receptive to someone else’s idea, had an option. However, Bo was stubborn and believed that he was right .He cut off his nose regardless. He could’ve put in Kevin Casey, Michigan’s best throwing quarterback. However,” Kevin was in Bo’s doghouse, in part because he was cocky, a free thinker, and had an unusual lifestyle. Casey could run and throw, and think on his feet.” Unfortunately, for the Wolverines. Bo still wanted to run the ball and Quarterback Tom Slade, as quarterback could not throw the ball effectively in Michigan loss to Stanford 13-12. Bo’s stubbornness or anger was exhibited passively as he withheld putting Casey in the game. Everyone knew, Casey was the better throwing quarterback.
In spite of or because of Bo’s neurotic competitiveness and dominance tendencies, the University of Michigan football, became like Haley’s Comet. It was spectacular, admired and clearly visible for all to view. For 20 years, Bo Schembechler’s Warriors dominated the football world. Similarly, when Michigan football wavered after Lloyd Carr’s retirement, Jim Harbaugh was brought in to resurrect Michigan football. Jim is good, but at this point, the Wolverine faithful are not yet convinced that he is the new Messiah.
Go Blue
References
Horney, K “The Neurotic Personality of Our Time,” WW Norton and Company, Incorporated.
Lieberman, F, “Bo’s Warriors Bo Schembechler and the Transformation of Michigan Football,” Triumph Books.

Sunday, December 30, 2018

Bo's Competitiveness Part 3


 Bo’s Warriors remembered the frequency of Bo’s wrath. His hostility, competitive power controlling tenancies and anger was frequently displayed on the practice field. With power and competitive tendencies, we find anger. This suggests that for Bo, football was a life-and-death experience. He had to win, at all costs, regardless of the personal or self-sacrificing costs. It certainly didn’t help that Bo’s competitive players. Initially expressed their resentment toward their coach. In fact, it was as if they had an inhibition towards winning. For the first five games of that 1969 season, the Wolverines record was three wins and two losses. Bo’s seemingly mothering or looking for affection attitude change occurred during the halftime against the University of Minnesota. The Wolverines were behind and Bo, during half time, didn’t rant or rage, like a father, at his players. Instead, he talked to them clearly, directly and stated something to the effect that they were the better team and they shouldn’t allow themselves to lose the game. From the second half on, the team, dominated Minnesota, as well as the remaining teams on their schedule.
Another example of Bo’s hostility, with his competitive tendency, was his conviction that he was right, and would not allow or take in input that was counter to his own. Bo’s 1971 team was undefeated and dominated their opponents with their superlative and crushing rushing attack- “it was 3 yards and a cloud of dust.” They were primed and ready to face Stanford in the 1972 Rose Bowl.  With that victory, they would have won the National Championship, according to Thom Darden. Stanford was good, but not in the same class as the Wolverines. However, to diminish, Michigan’s famed running attack, the” Sanford Indians” stacked the line of scrimmage and placed 10 men on their side of the ball . That meant they had more defensive players on the line than Michigan’s offensive line players. There were just too many “Indians” for Michigan to block.
To Be Continued

Saturday, December 29, 2018

Bo's Competitiveness Part 2


When Bo took over the helm of the University Michigan football in 1969, he wanted to defeat, Woody Hayes his hero, his mentor whom he admired greatly. With his competitiveness, and dominance tendencies, he had very little difficulty in mustering all his mental and physical resources required to defeat his friend who was also became his enemy. Bo was hired to coach football at Michigan by athletic director Don Canham. The reason that mattered most for the A.D. was to beat Ohio State’s Woody Hayes. Woody Hayes’ Ohio State Buckeyes demolished, embarrassed and humiliated. Bump Elliott’s 1968 football squad by the score of 50-14. That spanking, by Woody, resulted in the firing of the respected, dapper and beloved Coach Bump Elliott.
Early on in 1969, that Ohio State game was circled on Bo’s blackboard for all to witness. That meant one thing and one thing only -beat OSU. Bo also had his players, during practice, display the number 50 on their helmets. That 50 number symbolized and signified the previous year’s drubbing and humiliation by OSU.  He pushed his players on the practice field, running the same plays over and over until the play was run perfectly. This resulted in excessive practice demands without player mistakes-just ask Reggie McKenzie. When a mistake was made, and someone screwed up, Bo’s hostility or the result  of his fear of failure was apparent. During one practice, Quarterback Jim Betts mishandled the ball that he received from the center with a fumble. Jim didn’t fumble purposely. Bo’s hostility and anger was directed at Jim in front of his teammates. It didn’t matter that, according to Jim, that he was embarrassed nor humiliated. Bo screamed, and kicked Jim in the ass yelling, “Son of a bitch, don’t drop the dam ball again. Run the damn play.” Initially, Jim refused. But, teammate Reggie McKenzie yelled out “rope man” which was Jim’s nickname. It was only then that Jim ran the play, but, halfheartedly and only going through the motions.
Even though Bo had a terrific season and his Wolverines beat Ohio State In that classic upset 24-12, one can argue that the season, took a tremendous toll on Bo. Further, Bo’s pleasure, happiness and well-being did not last long after beating Woody’s Buckeyes or winning the trip to play in the Rose Bowl. Bo, at age 40, in fact, suffered a heart attack on the eve of that USC bowl game.
To Be Continued

Friday, December 28, 2018

Bo's Competitiveness


Competitiveness is very prevalent in our socioeconomic culture. In fact, competition relates to too many of our day-to-day living activities, especially with our interactions with others. This post addresses aspects of the competitiveness of the legendary Bo Schembechler.
With Bo, as a result of his competitive tendencies, he compared himself against all others, regardless of the circumstances. He simply wanted to be ahead, on top or dominant against all others. It didn’t matter as he competed against his two older sisters for the single family bicycle or making that tackle and not letting go of the ball carrier, even though he was dragged, cut and bruised along the way. Secondly, he not only wanted to achieve more than anyone else, or to have greater success, but he also wanted to be exceptional. It just wasn’t enough for him, to be a major-league ball player, he wanted to be the superstar and pitch in game seven, the most important game, of the World Series. This was certainly a fantasy of grandiose proportion. More than likely, he wasn’t able to acknowledge or place any major emphasis on the significance of such an unrealistic fantasy. He was psychologically limited and not insightful in regards to his own underlying dynamics.
Bo wanted to be the best in every possible way and play college football for the Irish, which, at the time, was Notre Dame. Further, with major ambition and competitiveness tendencies, he was greatly sensitive to any barrier or frustration that interfered with his achieving success. Successes, for him, was only winning, while failure or fear of failure was experienced as a humiliation and being perceived as a loser. Also, closely found within a competitive and power controlling attitude was hostility since his emphasis or myopic focus was on victory. That meant defeating and dominating any and all opponents regardless of the situation. Unfortunately, on the playing field, his destructive emotional being tendencies seemed stronger than his constructive emotional being tendencies.  It was more important for Bo to see others defeated and to avoid, perceived failure than to succeed himself. Looking or viewing Bo’s body language from the sidelines was testimony. He didn’t appear to be enjoying himself while on the side lines in the heat of battle. He was limited and unable to complement his players, in games, even though they made spectacular plays.
To Be Continued

Sunday, December 23, 2018

Why We Mislead Part 3



  Cognitive linguist George Lakoff, PhD from the University of California, addressed alternative facts regarding Trump’s inauguration crowd claims.  Debunking or calling attention to this claim did not diminish their power because people assess the evidence presented to them through a framework of pre-existing beliefs and prejudices. If the facts do not fit into your cognitive-emotional frame work or if it’s threatening, then it is simply more convenient to label them false news facts. This is similar to the theory of cognitive dissonance. An example of this idea was borne out by Briony Swire-Thompson’s research at the University of Western Australia. This research documented the effectiveness of evidence-based information and the refuting of false beliefs. The study was based on the false statement made by Donald Trump. He stated that vaccines cause autism. It was reported that Trump supporters showed a decidedly stronger belief in the misinformation when it had Donald Trump’s name attached to it. Then, these participants were given a short explanation as to the correct information. There was no relationship between the vaccine and autism. Initially, the participants accepted the fact and acknowledged the truth. However, testing the participants a week later, showed that their beliefs in the misinformation had bounced back to nearly the same original levels.
In summary, there are numerous reasons why we speak untruths. 1. Lying behavior begins early in life. 2. Lying is easy and often there are no serious negative consequences for the behavior. 3. Everyone seems to engage, to some degree, in the behavior, including our “politicians.” 4. It occurs during the evolution of the human brain. 5. For too many, it’s a significant characteristic in their character tendencies 6. Humans are gullible and tend to deceive themselves as well. For more detailed information, read the article in full.

Saturday, December 22, 2018

Why We Mislead Part 2


Lying,  is not rare, and most Homo sapiens are very adept at it; lying is easy to do; lies are big and small; and lying to strangers, coworkers, friends and loved ones are typical and frequent. Further, Homo sapiens are terrible at detecting lies. It is believed that the use of exaggeration and/or lies of omission have been part of our culture for a long time, and play good a significant role in the human condition of gullibility. Remember, the Ninth Commandment “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor” was purposely written a long time ago and still remains not respected nor possible. Dr. Bella De Paulo, a social psychologist, decades ago, reported that subjects, in her research, lied an average of 1 to 2 times a day; most of the lies were innocuous and with the purpose to hide one’s inadequacies or to protect the feelings of others; some lies were excuses; and further, most people have at some point told one or more serious lies during their lifetime.
It is speculated that lying behavior began shortly after the emergence of language.  “It’s so easy compared to the other ways of gaining power,” stated Dr. Sissela Bok an ethicist at Harvard University. Researchers have also found that Homo sapiens easily believe in lies, in spite of contradictory evidence or facts suggesting otherwise. Because of the productivity for deceiving others, this exposes our vulnerability of receiving false information. Social media has added to society’s inability or difficulty in keeping up with the truth and separating truth from non-truth.
Other research, by Dr. Kang Lee, at the University of Toronto, in the study of children, found that kids become more proficient at lying as they become older. Theory of the Mind is one idea used to explain the phenomena. It is believed that the facility we acquire for understanding the beliefs, intentions and knowledge of others, is when the  child has the ability to put himself in someone else’s shoes . This happens during the evolution and development of the executive function of the brain. They found that two-year-olds, who lied, performed better on tests of theory of the mind and executive function than those who didn’t; and, at age 16 kids that were proficient liars simply out performed poor liars using the same variables.
To Be Continued

Friday, December 21, 2018

Why We Mislead


Why We Mislead
While visiting Veloyce for my overuse injury at his Monster of Massage office, I borrowed his June, 2017 Edition of National Graphic. It was titled “Why We Lie   The science behind our complicated relationship with the truth. This timely article correlated with Judge Emmet Sullivan’s comments regarding Michael Flynn “Arguably, you sold your country out!”
The introduction to the article was about a man named Alexi Santana. His name was a lie. This man’s fabrications resulted in his being accepted for admission to Princeton in the fall of 1989. He told a most interesting fable. Further on, there were statements about the many criminals that lie, deceive and victimize such as financier Bernie Madoff. He employed a Ponzi scheme for his crime. The Ponzi scheme was named after Charles Ponzi who built a pyramid scheme selling international postal reply coupons. Aside from conning investors by promising them, terrific  returns, his scam involved paying one investor with money he collected from others. He was apprehended in 1920.
Past Pres. Richard Nixon lied, to stay in power. He denied having any role in Watergate. In 2016, President Donald Trump falsely claimed that his inauguration turn out, was larger than Pres. Barack Obama’s first one. This lie had to do with his frequent tendency  to enhance his prestige. This tendency is likely an unconscious protection against his self-perception of insignificance. Over and over, he needs to impress others, needs to be admired and needs to be respected. Perhaps a major component of his self-esteem, rests on, being admired and respected. If he doesn’t receive admiration, his self-esteem shrinks. For him, this lying behavior is a consistent and constant ordeal. He’s likely unaware of feeling humiliated because the knowledge of it would be too painful for him. Yes, it’s a protection against feeling insignificant and it is a feeble attempt to inflate his damaged self-esteem.
The National Geographic article went on and cited many examples of others who lied. Examples, such as American swimmer Ryan Lochte in the 2016 Summer Olympics; physicist Jan Hendrik Schon regarding breakthroughs in molecular semiconductor research; Frank Abagnale Jr. the main character in the 2002 movie “ Catch Me If You Can.” This impostor stated “I had to be creative in order to survive. I do and will continue to regret it for the rest of my life.” PT Barnum was cited along with many others who falsified the truth.survive. I do and will continue to regret it for the rest of my life.” PT Barnum was cited along with many others who falsified the truth.
To Be Continued

Sunday, December 16, 2018

Addendum to Parental Expectations and Bruised Self-Esteem Part 3



Addendum to Parental Expectations and Bruised Self-Esteem Part 3
One example of Bo, not admitting that he was wrong was illustrated in the practice involving Jim Brandstatter following a blocked punt by a Missouri player, the Saturday before. During the punting drill, Bo said he would pay any player $10 who blocked the punt. Sure, and behold, the punt got blocked. Bo thought it was Jim’s fault. Jim, making his block, ran downfield towards the punt returner. Bo began running after him, shouting obscenities with spittle running down his face. He caught up to Jim and began slapping him, yelling and out-of-control. Line coach Jerry Hanlon shortly caught up to Bo and told him something to the effect that Jim made his block. Bo replied, “He needed it anyway!”
Off the field, Bo demonstrated behaviors associated of a warm, loving, all-encompassing father. Many of his players attest to that fact. For instance, years later, all Pro Thom Darden with the Cleveland Browns visited, Bo in his office. It was customary for former players to come back and be with Bo. Thom didn’t know that one of Bo’s sons died in an automobile accident. When the subject came up, both Bo and Thom cried like babies. Their bond was strong.
Both Bo’s neurosis, and loving behaviors resulted in him becoming an unparalleled successful University of Michigan coach. So successful, there’s a look-alike statue of Bo, that’s placed in front of Schembechler Hall. Current coach Jim Harbaugh passes it every day. The All-American Michigan’s Jim Harbaugh was Bo’s quarterback. Now, unfortunately or fortunately, coach Harbaugh’s been compared to Bo, the legend.
More stories to be found in Bo’s Warriors Bo Schembechler and the Transformation of Michigan Football published by Triumph Books.

Saturday, December 15, 2018

Addendum to Parental Expectations and Damaged Self-Esteem Part 2


Addendum to Parental Expectations, and Damaged Self-Esteem Part 2

Examples of Bo Schembechler’s character and tendency to express power was displayed on the football practice field and during spring conditioning drills. He pushed, screamed and even challenged Cecil Pryor, a massive defensive end, “if you want to fight somebody, fight me” during a Slap and Stomp spring conditioning drill. “The athletes agreed at the time that Bo was a crazy maniac” per Frank Gusich who became the second Wolfman and was considered by his team’s player’s as one of the toughest, if not the toughest. While going through Bo’s unorthodox and grueling conditioning and practices, Frank reported the following thoughts “lock the coach up and throw away the key; how could any other team be in better shape than our Michigan team... Especially in the fourth quarter of a close or difficult game? because of all the superior or extreme conditioning. The better conditioned team would win the game.” Frank also reported overhearing an NFL scout at one practice, state “these guys practice hard.”
Make no mistake about it, for Bo, football was for the strong and not for the weak. In fact, early in his first year of coaching with the Wolverines, It was “do it my way or take the Highway.” Not only that, a drove of players left “the team because of Schembechler’s autocratic way of teaching.” Because of the dwindling numbers that quit the team, because of Bo, he put up a sign stating “those who stay will be champions.” The Pru man or John Prusiecki added to the sign “those who quit will be lawyers, doctors and captains of industry.” The players never revealed Pru man’s identity. His teammates protected him from the maniac.
To Be Continued

Friday, December 14, 2018

Addendum to Parental Expectations, and Damaged Self-Esteem


Addendum to Parental Expectations, and Damaged Self-esteem
The purpose of this addendum is to provide additional motivational dynamics, in order to better understand, Bo Schembechler’s character regarding his aggressive behavioral tendencies. As we know, we all start out and begin life feeling insecure and powerless. Personality develops, as a result of parental, peer group associations, socioeconomic religious, and environmental interactions. Within our being, unfortunately, anxiety and fear stay with us in varying degrees. With anxiety and fear, unfortunately often follows anger and the expression of aggression.   For too many, inappropriate, aggressive and hateful interpersonal explosive interactions are too frequent. Fortunately, there are various ways to compensate. Some mechanisms are good and some are bad. For instance, the feeling of power, is one way to compensate, and is appropriate in a non-neurotic person. In this case, the individual has the realization of his own superior strength. That sense of superior strength can be expressed in numerous ways. It can be physical, mental, including being wise and having wisdom.
For too many others, it results in more of a striving for power. This striving for power is often expressed toward members in the family, towards political figures and ideas, economic philosophies, educational attainments and settings and even pertaining to the area of sports, etc. In other words, a neurotic striving for power can be born out of anxiety, hatred, and feelings of inferiority. The emphasis is on the neurotic. In other words, normal striving for power becomes born out of a sense of strength, while for the neurotic, the striving for power is born out of a sense of weakness.
Anxiety is a major cause in the development of a neurosis. Unfortunately, with anxiety, we often find anger and often the expression of aggression. This also means this the individual is on guard, so to speak to any form of perceived helpless, or weakness in himself. As a consequence, he exhibits behaviors that are diametrically opposed to this often unconscious sense of insecurity. His anxiety is a clue, although he may be consciously unaware. The striving for power is paramount to essentially an emotionally protective device against the danger of feeling or being regarded as insignificant. This neurotic individual develops the irrational idea that because of his own “strength,” he should be able to master any situation, no matter how difficult it is to accomplish. Just put your mind to it. The perception of any weakness is experienced as not only dangerous, but as a disgrace. Therefore, this individual, by perception, classifies people as either “strong” or “weak.”  In essence, he admires the strong in attitude and despises the weak, in attitude. Furthermore, the neurotic’s anxiety and insecurity translates into the desire and drive motivationally to control others and to have his own way. He is inclined to want to be right all the time and dislikes being proved wrong, even if it is only an insignificant detail. Some refer to this as being narcissistic.
To Be Continued

Sunday, December 9, 2018

Parental Expectations with Damaged Self-Esteem Part 3



Parental Expectations with Damaged Self-Esteem  Part 3
College and professional coaches are “good” models in that they have no difficulty being enraged when the call goes against their team. This reminds me of a time when during a Ohio State and Michigan football game, Michigan’s Thom Darden made this spectacular interception guaranteeing Michigan’s win in 1971. Sports Illustrated referred to it as a moment of glory and” a play that defines college football.” Woody Hayes would have none of that.
Woody went up and down the sideline, knocking over yard markers while ranting and raging. The officials wound up giving him 2 unsportsmanlike penalties on that play against the Buckeyes.
I met, Bill Quimby that notorious referee a few years ago, at Thom Darden’s book signing in Cedar Rapids, Iowa. We talked about that call and that Woody was instrumental in removing Bill as a Big Ten football referee. Bill wound up being an NFL football referee for many years. I never asked Bill if he thanked Woody for his promotion.

In essence, it doesn’t take much in our society for us to experience frustration. With frustration, it becomes personalized with the release of anger as a result. That anger can be directed inward or verbally or physically directed outward. Signing a parent’s code of conduct is just a signature. How can a deeply over invested, frustrated parent or individual be expected to control that negative, tension filled emotion by signing a document?  Neither the 10 Commandments have not worked very well in controlling hateful, aggressive, emotionally based behavior, nor has the “death penalty”.
We know that the US leads in the manufacture of guns and the number of deaths per capita in the world. We also know that the ownership of guns can be political, and that one’s opinion regarding such can be emotionally based. As long as we