Masculine behaviors are defined culturally as males become socialized by various activities and personality characteristics. Masculine behaviors in the US are associated with aggression, self-reliance, independence, prestige, ambition , being adventurous with self-confidence. With that being said, we are familiar with the satire and chivalry in the Don Quixote story. This narcissistic powerful fictional character nearing 50 years of age , seduced numerous females . His behavior was not about a special romance , a commitment, or a lasting or forever love. Motivationally, sexual conquests can be viewed according to Alfred Adler’s “ masculine protest .” The motivation of this acting out behavior is related to the desire for superiority and completeness rising out of a felt inferiority or incompleteness . Masculine protest and masculinity are related. .Also important is the anxiety behind the tendencies for affection,power , possession and control. This essay is a fictional imitation or representation of the masculine protest for a Don Quixote type.
Biologically ,in order for the typical male to function sexually, he must have and maintain an erection during intrcourse until reaching orgasm. Factually, man must have the ability to satisfy his female partner sexually which is based on his demonstrating and maintaining an erection ..During active intercorse, It's up to the male , not the female to perform. If he is not able to perform,he experiences anxiety over the dreaded fear of failure .
A fear of failure is an attack on man's ego, prestige, power, value , masculinity, potency and is also related to diminished pleasure and satisfaction. A “ normal “ man doesn't have to worry about his potency, but the neurotic does. However,man’s satisfaction is also dependent on the woman's will and for her to reach orgasm for her to feel sexual satisfaction..
A significant NSSHB finding reported that about 85% of men stated that their partners had an orgasm after their most recent sexual event. In contrast , only 64% of women reported that they had an orgasm after their most recent sexual event. Also , one third of men reported a problem with their sexual function. Furthermore , sexual problems are common , for males, with increasing age and have been linked to serious health issues. And about 5 million American men have low testosterone levels, which can affect their sex drive, muscle , bone health,, energy and mood. It’s no wonder that American males are anxious and compensating about their fragile masculinity.,.Statistics on gun ownership tell that story.
The “ masculine” male ,for enhanced self esteem, requires prestige which is emotionally based on proving that he can perform sexually which ,in essence ,places him in a precarious position. It's an expectation that he has to perform which becomes obvious. Because of his potential fear of failure,, the male seeks other pursuits and behaviors for reassurance,, for a reduction in anxiety, as with his tendencies for acquiring power, status and control with things ,and others. .This results in his ego's need for competing , achieving ,dominating with aggression in many other spheres of his life. These ego needs are also associated with -competition , willpower,endurance, physical strength, and intelligence which are necessary assets for ensuring successful outcomes.
This ego need of competing,is related to prestige and expresses itself both in attitudes and interactions especially towards other men. With a fear of failure, this individual has to repeatedly prove that he is superior, more popular, better, more competent and more powerful than any other man. .He boasts that he is handsome , smarter and he knows more about any topic under the sun. He also claims that he's the best negotiator and he, alone, can make better deals .Furthermore, he has to repeatedly demonstrate his power and control over everything..This man boasts about his golfing ability.,his golf trophies,and his golf facilities . Yet,it has been documented that he repeatedly cheats in various ways during his rounds of golf. He has been called Commander in Cheat
.A few other illustrations of his competitive ego need seeking prestige and popularity relate to his boasting falsely about inaugural crowd size and ,attacking the character of Presidents . Obama and Biden,and Beyoncé ,Oprah,Powell, Fauci and so many others
Some men are gropers and have impulse control issues. .This man has a history of groping behaviors. This behavior is not likely about receiving pleasure but demonstrates his anxiety, emotional immaturity by demonstrating his power and control over those that appear to be weak and vulnerable without significant consequences. In fact, he bragged about it on a TV interview and on another occasion was found guilty of sexual misconduct in a court of law when ,finally, a brave female ,despite his sadistic intimidations, stood up to his verbal abuse .
He also had and competed over young females with his “friend “a notorious and convicted sex trafficker, He recently claimed that he ended , although there is no evidence, that relationship because his friend took attractive young females away from him but not because of his fiends criminal behavior.
Associated with the ego competition need illustrates his desperate , anxious inadequacy, over vanity His vanity is repeatedly expressed and is used to show off , to demonstrate and mask that he is not afraid of failing. His real estate fiascoes and bankruptcies are masked by him placing his name on buildings. He's concerned with his appearance thus focusing on makeup and hair which also relates to his narcissism. He proudly sells numerous items and had his own “University.” . He constantly boasts of his tariff policies irrespective of the objective reality. Another example of his male vanity is the ability to attract women sexually, to win them over or take advantage of them based on his power, wealth and celebrity status. Yes , he also pays them.
His precarious psychological position sets up his fear of being ridiculed and embarrassed .Psychologically , his quest for survival results in his aggressive tendency which is a defensive aggressive function. With females,irrespective of ages, he has to dominate with power , to make them feel weak, helpless and fearful . And, if she’s afraid of him , she won't dare to ridicule or take him to court . So ,when this man is accused of being sexually inappropriate, he springs into defensive aggressive action by attacking , threatening and intimidating that female. It's his attempt for sadistic power over another person. .This aggressive defensive expression is not only related to females . He dominates, controls and attacks with intimidation over anything and everything . No living person can now doubt his power and ability for harm..
His quest to compensate for feeling inferior and inadequate are also demonstrated and seen repeatedly with his tariff flip flops,mass firings, deportations, takeover of the justice system, treasury, defense ,Health and Human Services ,colleges , universities,,media and press ..
In conclusion, some might view or speculate Don Quixote's masculine protest was also related to his fear of castration. However, this essay is based only on speculation ..
Reference
Fromm,Erich. The Art Of Loving.
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